Sex matters. It is a crucial part of whom we are and what to do. So why do we police what is 'normal' and what is 'bizarre'? As the author argues in this insightful book, whenever we disapprove of others or ourselves in this way, we close our eyes to a deeper understanding of human nature. As a psychiatrist, she has also worked inside prisons with sex offenders, so she is familiar with the extremes of 'oddity'. Here, she uses a psychoanalytic framework with humour, insight and clarity to explore why we disapprove, and what we lose when we do. She presents us with a series of interwoven vignettes, drawn from clinical work and life experiences, which have led her to these conclusions.